{"id":3754,"date":"2021-08-23T14:17:16","date_gmt":"2021-08-23T19:17:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/read.streamapse.com\/?p=3754"},"modified":"2021-08-23T14:17:16","modified_gmt":"2021-08-23T19:17:16","slug":"this-is-who-i-am-take-it-or-leave-it-demi-lovato-on-being-nonbinary","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/streamapse.com\/Magazine\/?p=3754","title":{"rendered":"\u2018This Is Who I Am, Take It Or Leave It.\u2019 Demi Lovato On Being Nonbinary"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Lovato talked to The 19th about publicly sharing their nonbinary identity and being their most authentic self \u2014 without needing to be validated by others. <\/span><\/p>\n

Orion Rummler<\/a><\/p>\n

Originally published by The 19th<\/a><\/p>\n

Multi-platinum recording artist Demi Lovato, who publicly shared their nonbinary identity<\/a> earlier this year, said their gender journey has been an ongoing part of their life since elementary school \u2014\u00a0and they expect it to be a lifelong journey.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe all are so much more if we allow ourselves the ability to look within ourselves and challenge that binary that we\u2019ve grown up living in,\u201d they told Kate Sosin<\/a> at The 19th Represents Virtual Summit.<\/p>\n

Lovato went on to describe the experience as \u201cchallenging everything I\u2019ve known, everything I\u2019ve grown to believe I should look, and do, and act a certain way.\u201d<\/p>\n

They described being nonbinary as being their most authentic self \u2014 without needing to be validated by others.<\/p>\n

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\u201cIt\u2019s chucking all of that out the window and being like, this is who I am, take it or leave it. I don\u2019t need you to take it, but I feel great, even if you don\u2019t,\u201d they added.<\/p>\n

Lovato recalled first exploring their gender in fourth or fifth grade, when they would dress in a more masculine way outside of performances, such as appearances on \u201cBarney & Friends,\u201d and beauty pageants where they had to be \u201cglammed up.\u201d They said that set a tone for years to come.<\/p>\n

\u201cThat was the catalyst to the rest of my life, living in this hyper-feminine state that I didn\u2019t totally always identify with,\u201d Lovato said.<\/p>\n

The \u201caha\u201d moment, they said, came towards the end of 2019 as they recorded a song with English singer Sam Smith, who had come out as nonbinary earlier that year. After Lovato asked Smith questions about being nonbinary, the fellow singer invited them to a poetry reading that night to watch Alok Vaid-Menon perform.<\/p>\n

They said as they watched the poetry reading, tears streamed down their face \u2014\u00a0and at one point they belly-laughed loud enough for most of the room to hear. Lovato was moved. After the performance, they approached Vaid-Menon\u2014\u00a0whose writing often explores cycles of trauma and healing through gender expression \u2014 with a question: \u201cIs being nonbinary just being healed?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYes, oh my gosh, you get it,\u201d Vaid Menon responded.<\/p>\n

\u201cFor me \u2026 it was being healed of the gender norms that had put trauma on me, in my life growing up,\u201d Lovato said. \u201cIt was saying goodbye to all of that that made me feel like I was finally home,\u201d they said.<\/p>\n

Lovato said that while they were initially nervous to come out as nonbinary \u2014 knowing that \u201csome people wouldn\u2019t be stoked\u201d \u2014\u00a0they knew it was something they had to do. LGBTQ+ fans were among those most supportive to the news, Lovato told The 19th.<\/p>\n

\u201cI feel like they get it. They understand what it\u2019s like to come out and not be received well by certain people or family members.\u201d<\/p>\n

Lovato noted that a painful part of the process has been realizing that certain family members don\u2019t accept their identity, although they had expected them to. Regardless of that pain, and some straight fans not being as receptive to their identity, Lovato said that they can\u2019t dwell on the criticism.<\/p>\n

\u201cI can\u2019t think about the people that are going to critique what I\u2019m doing and saying and how I\u2019m living today because this is what\u2019s keeping me alive, not their opinions of me.\u201d<\/p>\n

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